What is Pornography?

Pornography (often abbreviated porn) is the portrayal of sexual subject matter for the exclusive purpose of sexual arousal.[Pornography may be presented in a variety of media the popularly Circular icon with the letters "xxx”
"XXX” is used to designate pornographic material including books, magazines, postcards, photographs, sculpture, drawing, painting, animation, sound recording, phone calls, writing, film, video, and video games according to Wikipedia

What is masturbation?

Masturbation is the sexual stimulation of one’s own genitals for sexual arousal or other sexual pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm. The stimulation may involve hands, fingers, everyday objects, sex toys such as vibrators, or combinations of these. Wikipedia

it is not a crime for a girl to be attractive or for a guy to appreciate the fact that she is!

In fact, God created the first man and woman to be attracted to each other. He gave them the ability to love each other and to find fulfilment in their relationship. But Adam and Eve decided they knew better than God and disobey His instructions. Ever since then the sinful nature they passed on has encouraged men and women to seek fulfilment – including sexual fulfilment – by disobeying God’s instructions.

That’s why it’s so easy to look at a “forbidden” web porn site, then another, then just one more… or to download pictures and videos or hide magazines to look at in secret. Lust comes naturally. it’s an intense desire aimed only at satisfying your own sexual desires. Lust comes naturally. It is an intense desire aimed only at satisfying your own sexual desire. Love, However, is an unselfish concern for the good of another person that puts that person first, and your desires second.

Love doesn’t want that person used, abused or thought of as a sex object (1 Corinthians 13:4) … But Lust couldn’t care less.

Lustful Looking of a man

The naked truth is that pornography is all about lust and nothing about real love! Casually checking out pornography may seem harmless, but porn traps you into harmful thinking about every aspect of “the opposite sex” and male-female relationships.

What Kind of Trap is Pornography?

Pornography Devalues sex and damages relationships.

Pornography is a one-sided, self-satisfying relationship built on lust and immediate gratification. it devalues and damages the true meaning of sex. No way will it provide the relational skills and understanding attitude that you need for relating to women for a lifelong relationship with your future partner.

Porn is a multi-billion dollar industry that, like drugs, thrives and “addiction.” pornographers have no concerns for your well being. They only care about getting you hooked on their products, bring you down to their gutter level of morality, an then persuading you to call it “normal”.

Don’t settle for the world’s view that leaves you outside of God’s best intentions for you. All sexual relationships outside of marriage – real or fantasized – seriously damages God’s good plans for your life. it’s not worth trading a future of happiness for cheap thrills now.

Pornography always leaves you wanting more.

God’s word says it best: “Hell and destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied.” (Proverbs 27:20) Eyes always want a refresher course in what they saw last time.

Most college guys who are into porn got hooked years before college. older men who struggle with pornography have probably been into it since their teens. Many of them are trapped in a lifetime habit. is that what you want? Remember … you’re becoming right now what you’re going to be someday.

Pornography destroys your integrity.

you’re mistaken if you think you can download porn your mind and also live a strong Christian life. you’re only fooling yourself if you think it’s not making any difference in your relationships, especially your relationship with God. “whatever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption, but he that soweth to the spirit shall of the spirit reap life everlasting.”(Galatians 6:7)

That statement begins with these words: “Be not deceived; God is not mocked”. even if you hide it from everybody else you can’t fool God by indulging in porn in secret.

In other words … Pornography is about a lot more than looking at pictures

Pray this prayer from the bottom of your heart and watch the transformation begin by the power of the Holy Spirit in the Name of Jesus Christ.

What you put into your mind makes a difference.

If you fill the mind with pornography, it’s going to negatively influence the way you think about girls and how you treat them. For example, pornographic memories will never influence you in the right direction when you’re on a date. You know that sexual desire is like a fire that needs to be kept under control … pornography pours fuel on that fire!!!

when a guy lusts after the woman he sees in pornography, the images burn into his memory so deeply they never totally disappear. And lusting for women isn’t just a mental thing … Jesus said ”

…whosover looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28)

What pornography really costs you?

it helps to remind yourself of the consequences of using porn. Here’s a self-check to think about when you’re feeling like giving in to temptation.  MEDITATE UPON THESE THINGS; 1 TIMOTHY 4:15

My involvement with pornography…

  1. causes me to view girls and women as sex objects; rather than whole individuals created by God with a social, intellectual, and spiritual dimension along with physical dissension.
  2. Encourages me to use women for my lusts; rather than having a proper appreciation for them as people made in God’s likeness.
  3. satisfies only my sinful nature and obstructs the work of God in my life; instead of pleasing God it brings pleasure to Satan and people who have no interest in godly living.
  4. forms memories that will hinder a pure relationship; with the girls, I date now and the intimacy I’ll want someday with my future wife.
  5. destroys my example and credibility with non-Christians and Christians.
  6. Creates guilt that’s hard to shake, stains my memories, and influences all my thoughts and attitudes.
  7. Encourages me to live a secret “double life” instead of being honest about every area of my life. it’s not something I want my family to know about.
  8. Grieves Christ who dies so I could enjoy salvation and forgiveness. lust is one of the sins that nails Christ top the cross. One day I’ll have to look Him in the face and account for my involvement in porn and sexual lust.

My Involvement with porn controls my thoughts and life. is this really what I want for my life?

Escaping the Trap; How to Stop Masturbation & Pornography Today!

Let’s be honest about sexual temptation… 99% of guys are tempted and the other 1% are lying!

so what are you going to do? The sexual temptation will come knocking at your door every day.

Only Jesus always refused to open the door and let temptation come in to visit. Check out how you can follow his lead and refused to open the door when sexual temptation knocks. Like other temptations, pornography will always try to gain control of your life. But God’s word says if you “walk in the spirit … ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.” (Galatians 5:16) God is more powerful than temptation. Since Jesus lives in every Christian guy, with the help you can win the battle.

Begin now building a wall of defence that will last a lifetime.

Step 1.  The Foundation

Putting your trust and confidence in Jesus Christ.

A wall is no stronger than the foundation it’s built on. You can’t construct a strong wall on a weak foundation. In the same way, there are no steps to freedom from Sexual sins or any other sin without a right relationship with God. Without that, occasional victory will be the best you can hope for. The last page for this book explains how you can know God personally and have his power within you to keep you from caving in to the pressures of temptations. Please go there now if you’re doubtful about your relationship with God. you can also read the daily devotional post from this blog to build your Christian faith.

Then, begin building a wall of defence on that foundation using these important bricks/Steps to Stop Masturbation & watching Pornography.

Step 2.  The Bricks of Submission

Building walls with brick steps to overcome pornography and masturbation

Give God Control of your life.

I beseech you, therefore, brethren by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable services. and be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind … (Romans 12:1)

let God be in charge of your life every day so that you will honour Him in what you look at and how you look at girls. This is a daily battle… the temptation will come so you will have to be ready to withstand it with God’s help ( James 1: 13 – 154:7-8)

Realize that sex is God’s creation. Lust is Satan’s trap to rob you of God’s perfect plan. thank God for your Sexuality, and ask for the strength to honour Him with it.

Step 3.  The Bricks of Accountability

Take responsibilities for your actions.

Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in words, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity. (1 Timothy 4:12)

if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)

Be accountable to God. if you’ve been using porn, confess your sin and ask God’s forgiveness (1 John 1:9, Psalm 51). Also, choose a friend who is trustworthy, spiritual Christian guy and make yourselves accountable to each other (Proverbs 27:17). if you need a friend that would hold you accountable leave a comment at the section below.

Make sure you regularly ask each other hard questions. Also, make your closet Friends people who will encourage you to live a life that pleases God. “Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.” (1 Corinthians 15:33) But don’t act self-righteously –its God who makes the difference.

Step 4.  The Bricks of Priority

Read and Follow God’s Word.

Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his ways? By taking heed thereto according to thy word, With my whole heart have I sought thee: O let me no wander from thy commandments. Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee. (Psalms 119:9-11)  MEN OUGHT ALWAYS TO PRAY, AND NOT FAINT

Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things (Philippians 4:8)

Spend quality time often in the Bible to get God’s perspective on life, and then seriously think about what you’ve read and put it into practice. Stay in touch with God through consistent prayer (Luke 18:1); ask His often to help you overcome evil thoughts with good ones. Be active in a church where the Bible is taught as God’s changeless instructions for people today.

Start building your wall by memorizing verses from the Bible that God will use to help you in times of temptation to crowd out evil thoughts.

Start with the verses with each of these “Bricks”, then add your favourites.

Step 5.  The Bricks of Prevention

Set boundaries to avoid pornography which leads to masturbation

Start by making a promise to yourself not to look lustfully at a girl.

There hath no temptation taken you but such as Is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)

The moment you’re confronted with porn is not the best time to make a decision.

Decide beforehand what you’ll do before tempting situations happens and then act on the basis when temptation comes. For example, decide beforehand to stay off the internet when you’re the only one at home. Even when others are in the house, turn the monitor toward the door, and leave the door open. When watching TV, don’t even flick through channels you know carry porn or questionable shows and movies.

Step 6.  The Bricks of Discipline

Always keep in mind the goal of being like Christ

Let us lay aside every weight and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith (Hebrews 12:1-2)

For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, teaching us that, deny ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world. (Titus 2:11-12)

You’re in a battle for your eyes and mind! Just like with sports, discipline is the key to victory.

Do you desire temporary sinful satisfaction more than pleasing God? That’s a question that will be answered by your actions.

Jesus said, “Ye are my friends if ye do whatsoever I command you.” (John 15:14)

Step 7.  The Bricks of Resistance

Always resist temptation.

Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: whom resist steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world. (1 Peter 5:8-9)

Be very wise in your choice of movies, DVDs, CDs, websites and magazines.

Carefully guard all that enters your mind, so that you can resist temptation more vigorously.

Step 8.  The Bricks of Fleeing

Get out of tempting situations immediately

Flee also youthful lust: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the lord out of a pure heart. (2 Timothy 2:22)

Paul told his young friend Timothy to flee the evil desires of youth. Your absolute best defence is to run from pornography and sexual lust. God designed your needs to be fulfilled through pure relationships, not one-sided lust that messes with your mind, convincing you that what’s wrong is right because it feels good or excites you sexually.

Fleeing means “avoiding babe watch Tv and movies, it means walking away from provocative magazines on store shelves.

It’s choosing not to sit across from the girl in the short skirt or low-cut top. it’s choosing not to sit across from the girl in the short skirt or low-cut top. It’s looking and/or going the other way when you realize something or someone is a temptation to you. Fleeing is doing the right thing rather than craving into temptation …

it’s very practical. Let God guide you in doing the right thing.

Involvement with pornography is like making out or having sex on dates… wrong things you do now will become regrets later in life. God’s plans for true love and pure sex have your best interests in mind… and the best interests of girls, too.

You’ll never regret pursuing the goals of a pure life guided by the spirit of God!

Make a covenant with your eyes

Make a covenant with your eyes!

Make up your mind right now to look away every time your eyes tempts you to give in to lust and sexual temptation! You’ll have to retrain them to look away. you may have fallen into the habit of letting your eyes “follow girls” down the hall; have you ever noticed that your eyes never get enough?

One long gaze doesn’t do it for the rest of your life… not even for the rest of the day. You’ll have to refrain from letting your eyes roam and retrain them to regain a godly approach to how you look at women.

Building godly habits take time.

As you put into practice the habits of looking away, depend on God to help you make it a “holy habit” in your life! (Job 31:1).  WHOSOEVER THEREFORE SHALL BE ASHAMED OF ME AND OF MY WORDS … Mark 8:38

The Turning Point

In order to enjoy complete victory over pornography you will need to know that;

  • You will be tempted.
  • When you’re tempted, you might fall.

The awareness of these two simple yet profound truths about sex will help you not to become discouraged as you seek to live a pure life before God and people. If, however, you – though being sincere – have been frequently falling into temptation, it’s time to turn to God, to open your heart to Him and confess your sins.

God can restore your joy and show you how pleasing and gratifying life of purity, love and faithfulness can be. But, there are still other important things to remember in this decisive moment of your life and future.

Stop the excuses!

The first thing to do when temptation strikes are to stop the excuses.

Anything that satisfies our fallen nature, as much as porn does, isn’t going to go away without a fight. That’s the reality, but it’s not an excuse to keep wading around in the sewers of porn. it doesn’t matter what other guys think porn is cool; you know you can’t do porn and be pure at the same time. “what?

know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you…?

Glorify God in your body…” (1Corinthians 6:19-20), there’s no excuse for a Christian guy inviting sexual immorality into his body!

if you feel an excuse coming on, stop and say “No more excuse”.

Cut off the evil habit by the roots!

Don’t fool yourself. you can’t gradually cut back your involvement with lust and porn. This will only extend your problem and keep you satisfying your lust. the best thing to do is to cut off the evil habit by the roots. The Bible clearly says ” … make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lust thereof” (Romans 13:14)

The best way to say “no” to temptation is to avoid it in the first place. The fewer the temptations, the less we are likely to give in.

Therefore, cut off the evil habit by the roots. if you rely on the internet to work, to study or even for entertainment, try not to use it until you install a good filter click here for the best filters. Then, don’t try to discover ways to defeat the filter! Cut off the evil habit by the roots. if your friends are involved with porn be firm and clear about your position and say “no”. if they continue to influence you about pornography, drop that friendship!

Always keep before you the seriousness of the problem

Don’t let yourself be convinced by any argument that minimizes that serious problem of pornography. porn is not a fair escape for your natural sexual desires. The involvement with pornography is a depraved habit that – if not properly resisted – will progress until it gets control over your will and transform you into a slave of your lust.

Just like drugs, pornography is a seductive invitation to easy, cheap and immediate gratification. But, the result of this involvement is a bitter submission to your basic instincts which ill produce disastrous consequences for your sexuality. Jesus died and rose again so that you could live a life of liberty in which pleasure wouldn’t be an end in itself. nor would it transform you into a slave to your instincts.

” … Ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.” (Galatians 5:13)

How to stop watching bad stuff

In a few words… I must abandon pornography because;

  • My sexuality is a marvellous gift of God which exist to be experienced in an atmosphere of love, fullness, and loyalty in marriage. It isn’t supposed to be vulgarised by lust and the practice of pornography.
  • Besides being alienating and empty in itself, pornography throws me into a spiral of an obsession for physical pleasure which is never really satisfied.
  • This practice makes me a slave of lust, it robs me of my freedom, undermines my purity and compromises my integrity.
  • it’s a sordid and vicious habit that causes terrible consequences for my sexuality and devasting implications for my spirituality.

If you – thought to be sincere – have been frequently falling into temptation, it’s time to turn to God, to open your heart to Him and confess your sins.

God can restore your joy and show you how pleasing and gratifying life of purity, love and faithfulness can be in Christ Jesus